Warning – Do Not Be Surprised By Reality Again
The First Time You Were Surprised By Reality
Around puberty you begin to think about love. Not the love for your mother or bone fetching friend Rusty. You think about being in love. Meeting that special someone to share your life with. Walks in the park, smiles across a crowed room, tingles in the stomach, kissing as you suck a single strand of spaghetti. You lay in your bed, stare at the ceiling and daydream about being in love.
Also around puberty you become inundated by the mass media machine. Movies, music, books, and paintings. You read books about eternal love, listen to songs about true love, watch movies that end with ‘and they lived happily every after’, your favorite picture is of a couple feeding each other grapes under a large oak tree. The concept of love, how beautiful it is, how perfect it is, how eternal it is, forms in your young mind.
You cannot wait to be in love. Everything will be perfect.
And then it happens. You find somebody. It is exciting – just like your favorite song said it would be. Always smiling and skipping – everything just like in the movies.
Unfortunately you do not live in Disneyland – things do not end happily ever after. Reality suddenly arrives with a kick in the crotch. Just knocks down the door and storms in, no knock, no ‘can I come in?’. Love turns out nothing like you though it would be; like they told you it would be. Instead of butterflies and rainbows there are slaps and flying dishes. There is jealousy, pain, doubt and sometimes lawyers. Cupid’s arrow hits the pulmonary artery and causes internal bleeding.
Fortunately you are older now. Now you know that mass media simply doles out what people want to hear. Songs about love eternal sell. Movies that end with happily ever after sell. Paintings of couples embracing in the sunset sell. Perfect love is not real but it sells.
Now you know better. Your expectations about love are more realistic. Hearing a song about love eternal causes the eyes to roll instead of the heart to swell. Teens walk out of the movie theater with tears in their eyes, you are holding your mouth trying not to laugh.
Surprised By Reality Again
One day browsing the internet you come across a website that catches your attention. A big flashy header, ‘Start your own blog today!’, it is easy, make lots of money, be famous. You start getting excited. This is exactly what you have been looking for. To write and be famous. To work from home and make lots of money. To sit on the beach with your laptop and a martini. You lay in your bed, stare at the ceiling and daydream about being a blogger.
The more you look into it the better it gets. There are so many successful blogs out there – everybody is doing it. And the best part is that it is so easy. All you need to do is write a couple paragraphs everyday. Visitors will adore your writing, they will tell their friends, your blog will have thousands of visitors in a matter of months. No more nine to five at the office, goodbye idiot boss, time to get off your knees begging for a bonus. Everything will be great – you will be a rich blogger.
Like a giddy little school girl on the first day of class, you start blogging.
Six month later you are a bitter old man feeding pigions in the park, cursing the cruel world with an occasional shake of the fist. Without asking to come in, reality barged through the door again. Writing everyday is not as easy as you expected. You only have 50 visitors a day. Instead of thousands of dollars you have hundreds of pennies. Most of your time is spent deleting spam. You dread the boring promotional tasks that need to be done everyday: commenting on blogs, writing articles, adding links to directories. Being a blogger is nothing like you thought it would be. It is hard work with little reward.
You were fooled by mass media again. Stories of people making thousands of dollars a month. Websites claiming that you can have a successful blog by working only a few hours a week. Blogs claiming that all you need to do is buy their ebook and in no time you will be making a living from home. They make these claims because they sell.
Now you know better. Again.
Real Love, Real Blogger
Real love requires patience, persistence and hard work – so does being a successful blogger.