I Would Rather Not Think About This Website

Written On Day: 399

These words are written in hesitation, almost agony.  For more then a month I have not had to think about this website.  It was a month of total bliss.  My mind was clean.  I ignored my traffic stats, I did not read other blogs, I did not add new content.  It was back to the good old days – before I had this website.  My mind was free to roam about anything and everything.

Time was my own.  Reading,  I was able to concentrate on what the donkey was saying to the turtle.  When I had a shower I was able to sing.  I ate slow and chewed all my food.  No rush and nothing pressing me.  No pressure to be at the computer doing something to the website.

I did not care about this website or about the online world.  It was great; but like the courting phase of a relationship, it must come to a end.  The fun stops and work begins – kisses and hugs become obligations and commitments.

So here I am, back at it.  Writing about the website.  Oh God, the agony.  With these words come all the attachments:  HTML, visitors, traffic, Adsense, comments, backups and that is just the technical aspect.  There is also the physiological damage – mental strain, sense of failure,  syphilis pushing a rock up a hill only to have it roll back again,  a slave to the website.  Back at it, back to having the website as a constant companion while I walk the streets, take a shower and sip my coffee.

Why do this?  Why put one self through it?  What is it all for?  The same reason destitute and repressed people left their homes, traveled the stormy seas, and landed on the beaches of the unknown called America.   A dream.  I do it in pursuit of a dream.  Pilgrims came to America to avoid suppression and start a new life on their own terms.  This website is in pursuit of a dream of living on my own terms.  To be free from the terms of my employee contract.  To be free from my 1 hour lunch break.  To be free from my boss’s mood swings.  Free to call time my own.  I have a dream.

Lots of people died on the journey to America.  And a lot more when they got there.  In their case failure turned the dream chaser to fertilizer.  Fortunately for me the worst that can happen is I spend a lot of time and money and end up with 20 megabytes of useless HTML.

I have spent a year on this website.  In terms of making money it was a complete waste.  I could of made a lot more with a lemonade stand setup beside a water fountain.  During the year I spent a lot of time thinking about the website – mental time that I will never get back.  Was it worth it?  Maybe if I spent that time thinking about something else, like building a perpetual motion machine, I would be a lot better off now.

But that was last year.  Who knows if it was for the best.  But I am not a crazed nut that pursues an impossible dream of turning dung into gold.  One more year is all that I will allow this website to suck out of me.  If nothing drastic happens within a year I will release myself from its grasp and be free to sing in the shower again.

  1. February 4th, 2010 at 22:48 | #1

    Roman! So good to see you back. I enjoy our verbal sparring sessions.

    Stop dreaming my friend, and start working!

    Do you know you’ve published 7 posts in the last 5 months? Of course you aren’t making any money, and frankly, you don’t deserve to. What value are you giving anyone?

    In the same time I published 135 posts and wrote a book called Beyond Blogging.

    Come on, get moving, do some bloody work! You’re a good writer. You’re intelligent. Fulfil that dream!

  2. February 5th, 2010 at 16:46 | #2

    I agree with Mike, I *love* your posts and writing, but I don’t feel you do enough. It’s such a shame that you find it a waste though. Do you not enjoy writing what you’re doing or connecting with other bloggers? If so, maybe you’re not trying the right way to make money. I love reading your blog so I hope I’m wrong, but everyone is different so maybe you need to blog in a different niche, a niche that you would love to write about whether you made money or not??

  3. roman
    February 5th, 2010 at 17:13 | #3

    Mike and Ruth, you guys make it difficult to blame the world for my woes. But you are probably right, it might be a little bit my fault that success is being dolled out a penny at a time. I should do more. But I am worried that brute force ‘do more’ might not be the answer – who knows. Since I have no other idea besides ‘do more’ I will do more and see. I will ‘do more’ for 1 more year.

    Ruth it is not that I do not like writing for this blog – I do. It is just that I do not like thinking about it all the time. I do not enjoy ‘howthiswebsitemakemoney’ being in my head all the time. Sometimes I just want to think about flowers and donkeys without being nagged by this website. I do not like being like the high jump athlete who always has to think about the pole and how to jump over it; having nightmares of the pole wiggling, shaking and then falling to the ground.

  4. March 8th, 2010 at 12:32 | #4

    Hi Roman,
    I’m another one who is certainly glad to see you posting again. If it was purely down to quality of writing I think you’d be rolling in money already. You could always try blogging about those flowers and donkeys to take the pressure off. If you do, be sure to let us know because it’s bound to make good reading!

    All the best,

  5. blogging sucks
    January 27th, 2011 at 01:00 | #5

    You should have learned a long time ago that blogging is actually one of the WORST ways to make money on the internet. Better to spend your time elsewhere. I think your talent is in writing, not in blogging. You should write something and sell it online (outside the use of a blog) .

  6. blogging sucks
    January 27th, 2011 at 01:03 | #6

    One more thing: Your loyalty may be your biggest weakness. You have to learn how to shut things down without any guilt. and move onto something more meaningful.. it’s important to have some success to build on. it’s all about the opportunity (or missed opportunity) cost. For example, the more time you waste on this blog , as its not earning anything meaningful for you, the less time you have for something else.
    However, this blog may be an enjoyably hobby for you. In that case, that’s fine. If making money is the main motivation, then I dont know what to say…

  7. Nular
    December 14th, 2011 at 12:10 | #7

    Hi,Roman.I’d never seen so true and detail a blog before I saw you this one. You know everyone who wants make money by guiding others always claim they make huge money easily.However,rarely they give the real or reliable samples.Can the Internet be a huge gold mine or just a hole that voices of success raised and echoed everywhere to lure those who have dreams? I don’t know but want to know and hunt for answer. Any website that making money with websites is full of reasons and exciting,but none tells you the real state. So, I think you,to find still there is a voice to tell a true website. I do thank this is value.
    By the way, I am not very good at English compare to American. However, your website is easy to me to understand.

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